Last month I hired a cleaning service. I didn't realize this was a thing. I was going through the mail and came across a flyer that said "Life is too short to clean your own house"... and all I could think was DAMN RIGHT. I was tired of trying to wake up early on a Saturday to run, spend the day with Brad and Joanna doing fun things, then stay up until 11pm *cleaning* random things in my home and never feeling satisfied with my effort. That is just the brutal truth.
It took me a long time to come to terms with a cleaning service. First off, one would think that this seems in the OPPOSITE direction of my efforts toward "domestication" and maybe the whole reason for my blog... and you are totally right! (If you didn't know me). But when I set out on the journey to become domesticated, I didn't mean that I wanted to be a 1950's house wife. It just meant that I wanted to learn more about homemaking and and maybe channel my inner Martha Stewart or The Pioneer Woman or Joanna Gaines. It mean that I wanted to learn how to cook without asking my husband 10 questions along the way or maybe I wanted to be creative enough to sew a chair cover for the love seat I bought 7 years ago (which is now a dog chair, sooooo.... I give up on that one!).
Regardless, it didn't mean that I wanted to learn how to use the vacuum cleaner or see how many loads of laundry I can do in 24 hours. In our house we have a good share of chores that we BOTH participate in. But cleaning? That's just one we can't quite keep up with. And I'll admit it, maybe Brad's idea of cleaning doesn't quite add up to mine. But that doesn't mean I don't appreciate his effort. He helps keep the laundry going, washes bottles and does his fair share of cooking. And I am one very grateful wife for what he does to help around the house. I'm especially grateful for him taking a lead on making baby food because what we feed Joanna is far more important to me than how clean our home is.
Anyways, I made a list to try and convince myself why this was necessary in our life. A cleaning company? I even polled a few mommy friends on how they keep their house clean. I honestly didn't want to hear how they were also incredibly tired but they do it themselves anyways. 1 or 2 friends did admit they use a cleaning company and for those ladies I will be forever indebted because they gave me the courage to pull the plug.
I want to spend my weekends having fun with my girl (and my hubby when he isn't working). I DON'T want to spend my weekends trying to clean while she plays. Or thinking about how she is now crawling around on a floor that hasn't been moped in 6 months. Yes, I just said that out loud. Sure, when something gets spilled or we have an accident... we "spot clean". But, now I have confidence that at least once a month my floor has been moped.
After all of that polling, discussing and convincing.... I swallowed my guilt and we did it. And here are the reasons why:
- I'm a pretty "high energy" kinda gal but I don't have enough energy to do all of the things that I want to do AND keep the house clean.
- I don't like to clean the toilets (Brad has always done this house chore). But, I also don't like to ask Brad to clean them when I think they are too dirty. Unfortunately, I'm nitty gritty and things bother me long before they bother him (maybe this is just how most women feel?).
- I have a baby who crawls around and puts everything in her mouth - she will find the dirt and eat it!
- We have a small SHEDDING-Zoo in our home and we need more than 2 people trying to keep up with it!
- Picking up baby toys, dog toys, random articles around the house and putting them back to where they belong - that is a job in itself and I still have to do this because the cleaners don't know where all of my shit goes (neither does my husband because I keep moving "where it belongs"... ha. Yes, this one is totally my own fault - and maybe we have too much stuff?).
- I'd like to read more and I can't sit on the couch and read if I'm busy thinking about how dirty the living room floor is.
- I like to walk around barefoot but I don't like to feel the dirt under my feet or see the pet hair pile up in the corner.
- I'm finally at a point in my life where I have less time than I wish I had with the people I love the most and I'm going to focus on enjoying my time (and trying to minimize the time I spend doing stuff I don't want to do).
- I have other house chores that NEED to get done and after they are all done, I'm too tired to mop the floor or scrub the shower - so naturally this rarely gets done.
- I'm an adult and I just don't feel like cleaning every weekend.
I know that not everyone can afford to hire a cleaning service and I'll admit that I don't want to spend a fortune paying someone else to do it either. But I can part with a few things to offset the cost of someone coming over once a month to clean every room in my house. Plus, we still have to clean the kitchen every night (because I'm a freak and I cannot go to sleep with dirty dishes in the sink) and we still need to pull out the vacuum cleaner every once in a while. The service just lessens the stress I feel when I think that my house is a chaotic mess.
I'd love to hear what you guys do to stay sane!
What system do you use to keep up with your home?
Does minimizing your "stuff" really help feel like your house is less dirty?